Many men would love to occasionally delay their orgasm. After all, few things are more frustrating than this situation: you start in bed full of energy, but before it can really get good for both of you, it’s already over. Luckily, there are several tricks that can help extend lovemaking.
Summary
- Simple techniques like deep breathing, condoms, and the start-stop method help men delay climax.
- Training the PC muscle and experimenting with different positions can increase control and enjoyment.
- Focusing on the female orgasm ensures more satisfying intimacy for both partners.
1. Breathe deeply and relax!
Easier said than done, especially when things are getting hot. Still, try to breathe more calmly than usual next time and relax your thighs and buttocks. This allows your arousal to flow through your entire body instead of being concentrated solely in your intimate area. That way, you can delay your orgasm.
To practice, you might try so-called Slow Sex: it focuses on relaxed caresses without the pressure of orgasm and is great training! It’s also okay to briefly think of something boring or unsexy during sex to calm yourself down. Just be careful that thoughts about your boss or your tax return don’t completely kill the mood…
Autogenic training as well as breathing and relaxation exercises can also have a positive effect on your sex life.
2. Slow it down with a condom
Unfortunately, condoms are still sometimes unfairly considered a “turn-off.” That’s nonsense – sex with a condom can be great. Many men notice that the material slightly dampens stimulating friction during intercourse. Perfect if you want to delay orgasm! Don’t worry, you’ll still enjoy yourself – just not quite as quickly.
3. Postpone erection: The start-stop method
One of the best ways to learn to delay orgasm is to become familiar with your own body. Men can control their arousal better when they know the right moment to take a short break. Try experimenting during masturbation: just before orgasm overwhelms your body, stop.
Of course, that’s not easy when the stimulation feels so good. But this way, you train yourself to recognize the right moment during sex with your partner. Say “stop” just before ejaculation and pause for a few seconds until your arousal decreases. Then you can build it back up again and gain valuable extra moments of intimacy.
4. The Jen-Mo point can help
For men who want to hold back, suppress, or pause their orgasm, the mysterious Jen-Mo point can sometimes offer surprising possibilities. With targeted pressure, lovemaking can continue into another round.
5. Train your PC muscle and extend orgasm
As wonderful as orgasm is, for many men the overwhelming feeling fades after just a few seconds. Fortunately, there’s an exercise that not only helps delay orgasm but also makes it last longer: the Kegel exercise. It strengthens the muscles between the testicles and the anus.
Here’s how: sit on a chair with your legs apart and tighten your perineum (the area between testicles and anus). It should feel as though you’re pulling it upward toward your core. Hold the tension for five to ten seconds, then release. Ten repetitions are ideal. Try to repeat the session three times a day.
With a well-trained PC muscle, you can delay orgasm – and when it finally comes, it may be more intense and longer-lasting. The first successes are said to appear within just a few weeks. You’ll also learn to actively control this muscle: by relaxing it during sex, your penis becomes less sensitive and you can last longer.
6. Change positions
If you want to last longer, try different positions with your partner. This helps you discover which ones make you climax less quickly. For example, many men find that in the missionary position they don’t orgasm as fast. Once you’ve found a position that works, stick with it when you want things to last longer.
7. Support the female orgasm
The female orgasm can sometimes take its time. That’s why it can be frustrating if lovemaking ends with your orgasm before your partner has even had a chance. The solution: try positions that stimulate her orgasm more easily. That way, both of you will enjoy sex more – and probably before you climax yourself.